Children are often more sensitive than we expect, but they don’t always have the words or the courage to say, “I feel anxious.” Instead of expressing it directly, anxiety may appear through behaviors that adults might misunderstand or ignore.
What is anxiety in children?
Anxiety is a natural response to stress, but when it becomes chronic or excessive, it negatively affects a child’s daily life. Some children clearly express their anxiety, but many keep it inside, leading to subtle symptoms that are easily overlooked.
Signs of hidden anxiety in children:
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Frequent physical complaints: Such as stomachaches, headaches, or nausea without a clear medical cause.
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Avoidant behaviors: Refusing to go to school, fear of social events, or hesitation to try new things.
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Irritability or mood swings: The child may be seen as “difficult” or “stubborn,” when in fact they are emotionally overwhelmed.
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Sleep disturbances: Trouble falling asleep or frequent nightmares.
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Excessive perfectionism: An intense fear of making mistakes or disappointing others.
Why do children hide their anxiety?
A child might be afraid of being misunderstood or seen as weak. They may feel guilty about expressing their emotions, thinking they are burdening their parents. Sometimes, the child doesn’t even recognize the source of their feelings, so they express them through physical pain or avoidance of certain situations.
How can parents offer support?
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Be observant, not judgmental: Instead of punishing or getting angry, try to understand the reason behind the behavior.
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Create a safe space for expression: Let your child know that all emotions are valid, and talking about them is not a sign of weakness.
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Model emotional regulation: When your child sees you handling anxiety calmly, they learn to do the same.
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Provide a calm and structured routine: Routine gives children a sense of security and reduces stress.
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Seek professional help if needed: Therapists or school counselors can offer effective tools for managing anxiety.
