Most parents suffer from difficulty dealing with their naughty children. They are curious and quarrelsome. How can we deal with them in an intelligent way, and should their naughty behavior be modified?
Mental health expert Daria Al-Khazen believes that there is a positive in quarrelsome behavior, which means that the child begins to form his independent personality, and the degree of stubbornness here in the child is mild and does not disturb family members, except in the case of cruelty of the parents and imposition of control over the children. As for the obedient child, he always speaks with the word “present” on his tongue at all times. This type of child often suffers from a delay in his psychological and mental development.
According to Al-Khazen, every child has something that distinguishes him, and dealing with unruly children requires patience and understanding, so it is necessary to maintain calm, and express love and support to the child at all times. However, parents must know that raising this child should never involve beating or harmful punishment.
Al-Khazen stressed in her interview with Al-Jazeera Net that the future of a troublesome child may be distinct, and depends greatly on the nature and context of the child’s behavior and the opportunities available to him. Continuous learning, growth and appropriate assistance can contribute to positive improvements in his future.
The naughty child.. How do you deal with him?
Al-Khazen confirms that dealing well with a naughty child is the first step toward accepting him and changing his behavior for the better. Parents and educators must understand his behavior, which varies between screaming and constantly causing problems with his peers, friends, or neighbors. She provides some tips that may help in dealing with a naughty child:
Effective communication: Try to communicate with your child effectively and honestly. Listen to his feelings and needs and try to understand the reasons behind his naughty behavior. Communicate with him in simple and clear language so that he can understand you easily.
Promoting positivity: Try to reinforce your child’s positive behavior by encouraging him to talk about his feelings, offering positive alternatives to expressing anger or frustration, acknowledging the times when he is cooperative, and offering him praise and appreciation. Parents usually focus on children’s negative behaviors, punishment and criticism, and thus the relationship between parents and children is characterized by negativity.
Keeping calm: keeping a moderate voice when talking to your child about his behavior. Do not lower your voice too much so that he does not diminish the importance of the topic. Do not speak in an apologetic tone that makes him dare to attack you. Also, do not shout at him at all, and do not smile, but speak to him strictly, firmly, and in a loud voice. Moderate and serious, as if you were speaking in an interview or with one of the employees. Speak to him in a respectful manner that does not make him lose his dignity.
Controlling anger and nervousness: It is important to speak gently with the child and avoid screaming, as parents must be role models for their children.
Adhering to a daily and weekly routine: This can help improve your child’s behavior as well as performance in school, so determine the time for studying and activities, as well as sleep that provides him rest, because its lack of it leads to behavioral problems in children between the ages of 3 and 12 years.
Reducing instructions: Parents should not give too many orders and instructions that might exhaust the child or distract him, and should not assign him work that exceeds his capacity.
